This topic is pretty timely for me as lately I haven’t felt quite as confident with being confident as I should be. Does that make sense? Being ok with confidence is an idea that I tend to struggle with from time to time. There is absolutely no reason why I shouldn’t feel completely confident with myself, but whether its the way I’m feeling about my body, how my career is going, what’s happening in a relationship or whatever the internet is buzzing about… it seems like there’s always some type of trigger from time to time, where I find myself slipping into that fuzzy gray area of doubt and why I start to question myself.
But I know I’m not alone – But this worries me even more. Because why are we all so caught up in this idea that it is bad to have “too much confidence” or exuding confidence in a certain way is a negative personality trait? Why are we so taken aback when we hear other compliments themselves? Are we worried people will think we’re stuck up, conceded or naive? (First of all, who cares about what other people think? Let’s just do us!) Second, it’s not cool that some people are so negative towards confident people.
I personally really admire out-going, confident people. They inspire me and I myself have generally been a confident person throughout my life. As far as my own self-confidence – like I mentioned before, it comes and goes but generally speaking I try to keep my head held high and my vibes positive. Sometimes I feel like a phony when I encourage others to be confident and stay up when I’m personally feeling down on myself. But it’s reassuring to know that is temporary state that is totally avoidable with practice.
Negative self-talk is a hard habit to break and worse, talking negatively about others when we might not feel as confident. Nothing bums me out more than hearing someone getting put down for showing some confidence or believing in themselves.
Confidence is an important, positive trait we need to begin embracing. And we ALL have it. We tell children growing up to believe in themselves and that they can be anything. But as we get older those possibilities quick fade and we become more susceptible to self-doubt and the negativity of society.
The trick to self-confidence is appreciating yourself enough to understand the unique value you are bringing to the world. Not one other person in the world is YOU.
I have totally caught myself talking shit about myself. This past year I’ve been acutely aware of just how much we all do it, especially in groups. Giving or receiving a compliment is near impossible these days because we all immediately defending our perfections by pointing out flaws.
Whyyyyyyyyy? Stop it. Can we all please just STOP.
You guys, we’re all fucking aces. So let’s stop pretending otherwise, lift each other up. Lift yourself up. Do what inspires you. Feed your soul and nurture your mind. And don’t be afraid to let that confidence shine.
And with all that said, I’m really really excited to announce an inspiring and fun project I’ll been working crazy hard to put together for you guys! Throughout the whole month of October I‘m challenging you to TAKE CARE of yourself in a way you never have before. I’m encouraging all my friends (that’s you!) to be a bit selfish this Fall and start indulging in all the things that nurture our mind, body and soul so we can be the best and happiest versions of ourselves everyday! I’ll be delivering a mini-challenge daily via email, so be sure to get on the list where you’ll be the first to know about exclusive discounts and giveaways throughout the whole month. It’s to let our needs, priorities and happiness take a back seat, especially during the crazy holiday season, so let’s break the cycle and TAKE CARE!